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Is it really “Ae Dil Hai Mushkil” to come out of this Patriarchal mindset?

The controversy surrounding Karan Johar’s Ae Dil Hai Mushkil is not looking to die down where Aishwarya Rai Bachchan and Ranbir Kapoor’s intimate scenes are creating flutters in the social and print media even after more than a month, post its teaser launch. Reports were coming the Senior Bachchan is miffed with his daughter in law Aishwarya, for these scenes from Karan Johar’s latest Romantic caper. Amid all these speculations Mr Amithabh Bachchan didn’t give any reactions.

In the meantime he wrote a Heartwarming letter to his granddaughters Aradhya Bachchan and Navya Naveli Nanda. In which he writes about the prejudices and difficulties both girls would face despite their family legacies while dealing with this Patriarchal mindset of the Society. They would be told about small little things like how to dress, how to behave and many more such trivial things because of this patriarchal mindset of this so-called liberal and modern society.

Right now we are living in times of transition where each passing day the norms for women liberation and empowerment are changing so fast that it would become very difficult to really gauge the actual change in the mindset of our self-appointed elite male fraternity about the women around them.

If we try to dig a little deep to get hold of the roots of this kind of behavioral pattern of our patriarchal mindset, we would start finding its origins more often from medieval periods where our country was invaded and ruled by rulers from North West Asia.

These rulers brought a very different culture, basically an autocratic Patriarchal culture where each and every decision of a woman’s life has to be taken by her male counterpart whether it is her father, brother or husband and a little later her son would take charge of all the decisions regarding her daily chores.

This sort of degenerative mindset prevailed for centuries in India, it become so customary that it has engraved its stamp on the Psyche of generations after generations without being challenged.

After Independence we got our new constitution which had given fundamental right of freedom of expression and Right of equality, these rights were conceptualized with the intent of reforming these centuries old problems with clear-cut directions regarding every individual whether he/she is a man or woman of any caste, creed and color, he/she is entitled to the same set of freedom by our constitution.

This thought-provoking and liberal approach started making early inroads in Post-Independence era that we got our first woman Prime Minister Mrs. Indira Gandhi in late sixties who had governed our country with supreme authority and conviction. Her iron fisted style of governance has got her many accolades.

Near about seventy years after independence a lot is needed to be done to attain gender equality because crimes against women are increasing day by day because of this mindset which every now and then gives a glimpse of Stereotypical Patriarchal mindset.

Even If we talk about this movie Ae Dil Hai Mushkil, Nobody is talking about Ranbir Kapoor and his role but all the spotlight is hovering around Aishwarya Rai Bachchan because first of all she is a woman and secondly a daughter in law of Mr Amithabh Bachchan.

Patriarchal Mindset
Mr Amitabh Bachchan

As a male reader one would find me a bit partial towards our female fraternity but if you just go through this little list of day-to-day examples where as male you would always find yourself at ease without any inhibitions or second thoughts while dealing with those simple real life situations:

  • If you are in a bad mood or has a very dismal day but you wouldn’t be blamed for it due to your sex because after all you are a man that’s your right by default.
  • You would be paid equitably at your jobs just because you are not a woman, generally women doing the jobs get paid less as compared to their male counterparts.
  • While hiring your employer wouldn’t consider about you having children or not in future but in case of a woman these considerations take precedence before their appointments.
  • Having a night walk without any fear of being attacked or harmed.
  • As a male you can always use public transport without any fear of molestation but girls have to face these issues every day.
  • Male fraternity always have the option of pursuing their career without thinking about family issues but in case of a woman, she has to find a perfect balance in her family and career to pursue her career goals.

These are very few instances from our daily routines where women have to walk a little extra where men get an easy cakewalk. If we try to become a little more sensitive towards these issues we would understand that this Patriarchal mindset needs to be curbed to find a perfect equilibrium which would provide a little breather to already burdened female fraternity.